There is not a single being in the world who has not experienced anger. Anger is an intense emotion. It makes us lose all reason and capability to handle the situation. But how do we cope with anger?
First things first.
A man that does not know how to be angry does not know how to be good.
Don’t try to stop being angry because that never works. It is setting yourself up to fail. You may control it now, but it doesn’t end. You can’t stop a volcano from erupting. Closing its opening will only lead to implosion causing more destruction than before. Feel it and let it pass.
Anger is like flowing water; there’s nothing wrong with it as long as you let it flow. Hate is like stagnant water; anger that you denied yourself the freedom to feel, the freedom to flow. Stagnant water becomes dirty, stinky, disease-ridden, poisonous, deadly; that is your hate. On flowing water travels little paper boats; paper boats of forgiveness. Allow yourself to feel anger, allow your waters to flow, along with all the paper boats of forgiveness. Be human.
But, that doesn’t mean you should start acting on your anger because when you are angry, you have lost all REASON, don’t forget that. A person acts like a rabid dog attacking everything and everybody in its path. You must remember this:
Speak when you are angry, and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.
and also this:
I have learned that I should be careful with the words I choose to say when I am angry because later, those words always leave a huge wound of regrets in my heart besides hurting the loved ones. Those wounds can’t be healed!
But, if everything around angers you, turning you into a tumultuous mess. Then, this should help:
There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot.
Life is so short. The only person you hurt when you stay angry or hold grudges is you. Forgive everyone, including yourself.
And, in the end, the best way to be angry is:
Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.
Becoming angry in a healthy way is not easy, but not IMPOSSIBLE. Nor it is a chemical formula to put everything in perfect amount to get the perfect amount of anger. There is no perfection in this world, only imperfections that seemed perfect.
You are not perfect, neither am I nor is everybody. Working on yourself every day and making correct emotional decisions can only make our lives happier in the end.
The final aim is to make the highlights of the day positive, no matter what happens in the day.
A perfect day is a myth, a happy day is a possibility.
Abhishek Verma is a researcher in the field of deep learning and artificial intelligence. He likes to write about the logical way of self-improvement. Spurred by emotions, he also likes to write poetry. Stay in touch by joining his newsletter. Follow him on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and Mix.