The Most Integral Part Of A Conversation Is Not Speaking!

Abhishek Verma
8 min readJun 11, 2020
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It often happens with us, our conversations slip through our fingers like sand. Everything seems to be going alright, then, all of a sudden, it isn’t. We try to analyze (read, overthink), what went wrong and create some palliative measures for the next time. But, the vicious cycle of planning and failing continues. The proverbial smooth talker inside us seems like a unicorn now.

Fret not, success is preconditioned on failure. And you are strong, so you will again go into the battlefield of conversations because no man is an island and being social is how we boost our life’s returns to us.

So, let’s revisit the art of conversation again.

The Holy Trifecta

There are three aspects of a long-lasting, meaningful conversation:

  1. First Impression
  2. Rapport
  3. Listening

First impression is just like saving the contact information of the person in front of you, whether there will be a call or not depends on whether the interpersonal rapport is established between you two. Then, if rapport has been…