The Most Integral Part Of A Conversation Is Not Speaking!

8 min readJun 11, 2020
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It often happens with us, our conversations slip through our fingers like sand. Everything seems to be going alright, then, all of a sudden, it isn’t. We try to analyze (read, overthink), what went wrong and create some palliative measures for the next time. But, the vicious cycle of planning and failing continues. The proverbial smooth talker inside us seems like a unicorn now.

Fret not, success is preconditioned on failure. And you are strong, so you will again go into the battlefield of conversations because no man is an island and being social is how we boost our life’s returns to us.

So, let’s revisit the art of conversation again.

The Holy Trifecta

There are three aspects of a long-lasting, meaningful conversation:

  1. First Impression
  2. Rapport
  3. Listening

First impression is just like saving the contact information of the person in front of you, whether there will be a call or not depends on whether the interpersonal rapport is established between you two. Then, if rapport has been established, then, the conversation starts but it depends on your listening skills whether it will long last or not.

I have discussed the First Impression and Rapport in my previous articles. Feel free, to read them first.

The Art of Listening

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Loretta Lynch says it best:

Everyone wants to be seen. Everyone wants to be heard. Everyone wants to be recognized as the person that they are and not a stereotype or an image.

We all know and are well-versed with the truth that we judge people by how they look, they dress, they speak and every and any action they do is scrutinized by us. We all are…


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